Texting a guy you like is not as simple or as easy as it seems (at least, not when it comes to texting a romantic partner or a guy you like!)…
But, if you follow these 10 texting rules I’ve listed below, you’ll help keep your man engaged and interested.
Let’s begin, shall we?
1.) Show him that you have a life and passions outside of him
This is one of the biggest attraction killers when it comes to texting men… if you give your man a sense that he is the centre of your universe, he will lose attraction for you.
Remember, men are naturally hard wired to want to chase women… if you don’t give them a reason to feel that hunger and desire, they will generally lose interest.
That’s not to say that I’m trying to convince you to play games or mess with your man… no, quite the opposite.
What I’m encouraging you to do is to actually have a passion and life outside your man.
So spend time with your friends, spend time with your family, and have hobbies that only YOU do.
Don’t always say yes to him when he tries to make plans. To do this, you can occasionally text him something like,
“I would absolutely love to go out tomorrow night, but I promised my bestie I’d join her for paint night! Can we do Thursday?”
Once your guy senses that you’re the raddest human being of all time, he’s going to pursue you like a dog on raw meat! (He’ll also probably start wanting to commit to you and to a real relationship… don’t say I didn’t warn you!)
2.) Try and remain positive all the time!
Once you get to know a guy, it’s easy to let loose and begin complaining more about the negative aspects of your life.
There’s nothing wrong with confiding with your man about the things that bother you, but this can also be a real attraction killer.
If you’re constantly telling your guy about how shitty your life is, eventually, he’s going to think that you don’t have any control over your life… or even worse, maybe he’ll feel responsible for how shitty you feel.
So do your best and try and be cheerful, positive, and upbeat… and make sure your text messages reflect this.
There are many reasons to be a “cup half-full” kinda gal, so really, you’ve got nothing to lose!
Once your man sees how constantly chipper you are to text with, he’s going to be coming back for more and more.
3.) Don’t just say, “Hey” or “What’s up?”
This is one of the must lacklustre ways to greet someone over text. There are a TON of other things you can do to get his blood pumping in a way that makes him like you more.
Sure, we all feel a bit lazy sometimes… but it doesn’t take that much more effort to sound ten times more attractive.
You could say something like,
“Hey handsome guy – how did your presentation go today?”
“How are you, stud? Did you want Italian or Japanese for dinner tonight?”
A little effort goes a long way and it gives him something more substantial to reply to.
Remember this tip the next time you text your guy!
4.) Ask him thoughtful questions
I mean, don’t YOU like it when a guy asks about your life? It shows you that he cares, right?
So show HIM that you also care by asking him thoughtful questions.
Listen to what’s been on his mind most often — it could be something to do with school, work, or even a hobby that he’s really into.
It’ll not only show that you’re looking out for him, but also that you listen to what he cares about in his life.
5.) Don’t always respond too early or too late
Again, I don’t condone playing “mind-footsie” with your man, but I’d be lying to you if I said that playing hard to get doesn’t work.
If you respond to his text messages immediately, he’ll feel like you’re too available… but along the same lines, if you DON’T respond for a few days, he’ll lose interest because he’ll feel like you’re just not into him anymore.
The key is to sometimes respond in a timely manner, and to sometimes wait a few hours to reply.
If you followed rule number one (which was to make sure you have a life outside of your relationship) then this should happen naturally and organically.
But there’s also no harm in “faking it until you make it”. Once you get the hang of this easy-to-follow rule, your guy will be following you around like a lost puppy dog.
6.) Let him chase you
Don’t always be the one to initiate a conversation with him… once you know that he’s into you, let him text you first. (Look for these signs that indicate a guy likes you to figure out whether he’s fallen for you.)
This will let him feel like he’s the one chasing you and he’ll like that.
Remember, guys want to chase the woman that they’re interested in! So there’s no harm in letting him feel this way.
Just remember that the next time he DOES initiate a conversation with you through text, give him some positive feedback.
Say something like…
“Thanks! I was having a busy day and it’s really nice to hear from you. I’m good, what are you doing tonight?”
Something as simple as this can go a long way.
7.) Don’t text him too much…
And at the very least, don’t text him until he responds. This is especially important in the early days of dating.
If you text him way too much, he’ll get the impression that you’re a stage 5 clinger… and this is the least attractive thing you can do when you first meet a guy.
Instead, take a deep breath and play it cool. Be patient.
Understand that there are a ton of reasons why he won’t text back right away–he could be busy with work, school, friends, or family.
8.) Use humour in your text messages
Everyone loves to laugh, and texting is one of the easiest ways to show how funny you can be.
Even if you DON’T think you’re naturally that funny, you can send him memes, gifs, pictures, or videos to make him laugh.
I’m sure some of you follow funny Instagram accounts… if a meme or video makes you laugh, don’t be afraid to send it to him! Anything quick and fun is a great way to connect with your guy through text.
And the more you make a guy laugh, the more he’ll be into you… DUH!
9.) Don’t be afraid to get sexual (when you’re ready)
Guys LOVE sexy text messages – especially if things are starting to get serious.
And I don’t mean that you have to send him a bunch of nude selfies… in fact, sending him a well-crafted and classy text message can do the trick.
For example, you could say something like…
“I can’t wait to see you tonight. ;)”
“Just went lingerie shopping today…”
You don’t have to be explicit in your sexy text messages.
Anything mysterious that stokes his curiosity in an intimate way will do the trick.
10.) Pay close attention to how you craft your text message
Don’t text like a teenager – learn to make sure that your text messages are well written, short, and sweet.
Guys do NOT like reading a novel, especially if it’s about something serious.
Save the relationship talk for in person! Texting is just a means to make your guy feel good and to set up real life dates.
Remember this the next time you want to bring up something serious through texting.
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